We are all the product of our experiences—accrued moment by moment, over a lifetime.
Over time, we start to find the areas of life we care about. This "care" need not always be obsession. Sometimes it's merely the things we pay attention to.
Understanding and acknowledging this is important, because it proves an important counterpoint. Over time, we start to find the areas of life we don't care about—the things we don't pay attention to.
Collectively, these can build into blind spots, places where useful information—sometimes critically useful information—is lost simply because we've conditioned ourselves to ignore it. To box it off.
Blind spots can cause relationships to repeatedly fall apart—for seemingly no reason.
They can cause a career to stagnate—for seemingly no reason.
They can cause your business to stop making (or even lose) money—for seemingly no reason.
But there is a reason. You just can't see it. And you can't fix what you don't know.
This is the most infuriating aspect of blind spots. Because you can't see them, you experience them as a sort of... unending grind, an ever-growing frustration aimed at a nameless, formless target.
But the mind abhors a vacuum. It doesn't like not knowing the reason. It doesn't like not knowing who to blame. So it picks a target it an understand—usually someone who doesn't deserve that blame.
This can be other people. Relationships fall apart.
This can be yourself—a core belief that you're somehow not worthy. You spiral into a depression.
But neither are necessarily true. They're not the root cause. The root cause is usually something far simpler. Something far more tangible. Something understandable. Solvable.
You just can't see it.
Whether you're a partner in a relationship, an employee at a company, or an owner of a business, your responsibility is to find and eliminate those blind spots.
The single most effective way you can start is by finding a mentor. A mentor has a lifetime of different experiences (and, admittedly, different blind spots).
A mentor offers an outside perspective.
A mentor can give you the nudge you need to push past your blind spots.
A mentor can remind you of why you started down the road you were on, and get you back on it.
Find your blind spots.